I still hate addictions…

Things have continued to go from bad to worse for L.  Most afternoons are now spent passed out or very close to that state.  I usually put her to bed, take the children and phone her husband to let him know whats going on.

One day last week I was so angry I forced her to show me her hiding spots and I threw out every drop of alcohol I found.  I asked her if there was any more and she swore on my life there wasn’t.  BUT, not 10 minutes later I found 6 small bottle of champagne in her car.

I was so angry with her.  I tossed them onto her lap and said so what am I going to die now that you’ve sworn on my life and lied??

She just smiled as me and said I was a ‘tenacious bugger’, like it was just a game !!

I came home and phoned the rehab place that she is waiting to enter (when they have a spare bed) just to empty my head a bit.  The lady I spoke to was lovely and helped me get a few things sorted in my mind.

 Well I don’t know if it helped things a long at all, but the centre called L on Monday and admitted her on Tuesday. 

She is now 3 days into detox and then will move into a rehab program.  I am so hoping this works and she can then work with her family on rebuilding their shattered life.

I must say I’m not confident this will work the first time around, apparently the stats are 50/50 for success the first go.  Personally in my non professional opinion this attempt with not be successful, but believe me I’d be more than happy to be proved wrong

I hate addictions…

My poor friend L who is an alcoholic.  Things have just gone from bad to worse to terrible.  This morning her DH left as he can’t take it any more.  Tonight she was a wreck.  He wouldn’t take the kids, which I cannot understand.  The children are not safe with L (as much as I love her and don’t like saying that) and I can’t believe he’s left them there.  I know he is in a bad place too, and suffering, but the children and their safety have to come first.

 I brought the their kids home with us to have dinner and a bath with our kids and then took them back when it was close to bed time.  When I left L’s place earlier I asked her for her car keys because a few weeks ago she decided to drive during a storm after she’d had too much to drink and got her DH’s car stuck on the fence out the front.  That was another dreadful night

Anyway, she had been drinking tonight, but she promised me there was no more and I couldn’t find any.  When I took the kids back she was quite with it although I could still smell the alcohol. 

One thing about alcoholics is they can drink bucket loads of alcohol and still function seemingly normally.  Some people wouldn’t even know she’d been drinking.

Tomorrow I’m going with her to the GP to get a referral to a private clinic.  I’m hoping she tells the Dr the whole truth with out me having to tell her.  L needs to stop lying and face the truth.  Here is an example of things that have happened while L was intoxicated just this past month:

Smashed her DH’s car, passed out in the water while washing the dishes and nearly drowned, passed out and left the children unattended, passed out at a wedding and ended up on the floor in a position that every one could see what underwear she wasn’t wearing, borrowed money to buy alcohol, drank a bottle of rum then filled the bottle with tea, drank a bottle of wine and then filled it with water, drank beer even though she doesn’t like beer.

Truly the list goes on and on…

The first time I found her passed out I thought she was dead, I was so scared.  I’ve never seen anyone ever look the way she did.  I was about to phone an ambulance when I suddenly realised what was going on.

Anyway hopefully we will get somewhere tomorrow, although I phoned the private clinic she’s trying to get into tonight and they said there is a 2 to 3 week waiting list.  What on earth do we do in the mean time, the fellow tells me, “block her access to alcohol”…  Does he realise how resourceful she is??