My friend PF has been fighting cancer for 2 years. Lung cancer. She hasn’t smoked for many years, so not sure if its related to that awful addiction or not.
They were never expecting a cure, the cancer was inoperable and treatment wasn’t shrinking it only stopping it from growing.
Having treatment ever 3 weeks has been very tough but PF has soldiered on like a real trooper.
On Monday I was told that PF was in hospital and not expected to last the night. I went straight to the hospital. I was in such shock. I was only hugging her about 10 days before and although she was tired I never in a million years thought that could be the last time I spoke to her.
PF was in a coma. I had to try to so hard not to cry when I hugged her husband. PF looked so helpless, so fragile, I would have had no idea that this is the same PF that I had been with such a short time ago.
PF’s DH explained that she had some shocking headaches and had a subsequent scan on the Friday before they had found ’shadows’/tumours on the back of her neck. Its thought that these had caused the lining in her brain to become inflammed and then brought on some severe convulsions.
PF had been in a coma since Saturday afternoon and she wasn’t expected to live for much longer.
Before I left I went to PF, stroked her hair away from her forehead and tried hard to burn her face into my memory. With tears streaming down my face I kissed her and said goodbye. I told her I’d miss her and to please kiss my babies when she see’s them.
After hugging PF’s DH again and saying goodbye to her grown children and other family I left the room. I was struggling to breath and the lump in my throat was threatening to block off my wind pipe totally. It is so hard to describe that physical pain of grief.
Thank you PF for being a lovely friend to me. We share the same birthday you and I even though your birth date was 20+ years before mine we forged a lasting friendship. I will forever remember you on our birthday and treasure the cards with the beautiful heartfelt messages, the precious gifts and treasured memories you and I have shared.
